time – Esoteric Realms

Relationships are a great construction of two people giving of themselves wholly. As time has passed there have been many lessons we’ve all learnt from each other, some good some bad, some not so great. In saying this, there have been many lessons we take from examples of those around us in our family, friends, movies and maybe even inspired through and from movies. We are constantly looking all around us seeing these relationships take form and exist like the air we breathe. It has great power to be seen, great power to bring those great men to tenderness and timid women to great strength. We find ourselves in each other, in every situation, we transform and grow.

There are many examples where we are young and we can choose each other and love for the rest of our days, there are loves were taken or lost, loves that are shattered and loves that are yet to be. Funny how we can feel those words without even having to think twice. Love being the bond between two individuals making them one, we learn to accept parts and correct others. We can break or make ourselves and others in the environment we create. With words lost and actions, we can never return we break and destroy, with words and actions thoughtfully planned we can control and with thoughts and actions inspired we can ignite a flame that may never stop growing if we keep trusting that feeling that grows ever more with positive acknowledgment from our beloved.

We are all so tender and fragile, entering into a commitment we may not fully understand but our best intentions are our best card at dealing with whatever may come next. We decide we are going to do this together, the other persons suffering and needs are greater than our own. We don’t decide it we just feel it and go with it because if we don’t then we suffer too. We are incredible creatures to know ourselves in every secret place, we know our truest emotions and the things we love or despise. As time goes on we know our truest self, what we will accept in any of our relationships, we now set a standard because we have learnt or grown through fire, what we know we are worthy of receiving, what standard of love we desire to receive and no longer settle for those that are not worthy of our time or energy. We learn to accept we are so worthy of receiving because all we do is give, day or night at the drop of a hat there would be nothing we wouldn’t do to battle for our loved one. We learn so we want someone to reciprocate this action to us, no more empty words, promises, time being wasted, we are ready for the whole package. We accept nothing less now.

Love is a grand thing but it is not alive unless we give it life. We are the holders of life to create what we will. We cannot wait around praying and hoping, life is what happens when we decide on the action then live it out. That is living, that is life, that is love. Every day giving to each other, thinking of one another, being thoughtful, considerate, protecting, sacrificing. Someone else’s needs are your priority, through the thick and thin of it. Love is not you thinking you are a good person, it is you doing what is right every day, every night, every moment you can. They will always be your priority, your number one and if work, friends or other activities take that place, no one can receive the love they deserve from you if they give you priority in their life and vice versa. You learn that in time, you can do better, be better and accept nothing less than better than what you’re getting or giving right now.

Time is a great teacher of all things we allow ourselves to learn from the past, change our present so when we create our future we are creating memories that are worth remembering, that always last.

“Do not awaken love before it’s the right time.”
Song of Solomon 8:4

They say time is a present, my children have taught me this to a fuller understanding in day by day moments. Sharing more engaging activities has helped build upon a foundation of sacrifice and love. There will be a time they won’t need or want hugs and kisses, bedtime stories and me in general to help them. They will want to express their ever-growing independence all by themselves. They won’t call for me unless they need something, they won’t require me to nurture them as an I once did and in all of this, all I can think of is how precious the time we have is NOW. That there will be a time in the future where they will be able to go be their person, that right now will never happen again.

Realising all of this has given me a greater appreciation for my role as their mother, that at any moment life will change again and this time won’t come back, it won’t be undone, it will just be completed and built upon in days of moments made up of spending time together, teaching each other and growing in love. Amongst the frustrations and challenges we all face, taking the time and making the time are the most important tools we have in allow life and love to grow and happen. Otherwise, we end up with a house of stick lies where at any moment we fear it will fall exposing our failings. Time is all we have, the greatest gift we have been given to make a real difference big or small in our lives and those lives around us. We can create change, impact on production and future progression, we even get the time to relax but do we ever really make time for the important things in life, the things we look back upon and wish for the time there again, the time we will never get back.

Make the time. Making time, creating time, setting aside time. Showing something it is important means prioritising it. You don’t hide behind excuses like “I don’t have the time.” No, you make the time, you set it time aside and you use that time wisely like nourishment in the soil for the roots of the relationship. You can’t regret the time you never had because you never gave the time for it. We are given a gift so malleable but many of us tend to lose it, waste it or mismanage it. We expect others to control our time for us taking no responsibility for the gift we are given. We can take it and create something even if it only lasts a short while, sometimes something existing for a moment is better than not at all. I remind myself in every moment with them, I can never get this time back, I can only ever look back. I ask myself what memories am I creating, what memories will they hold. Let every moment be special, even just for a moment.

We tend to regret our choices with great hindsight and the emotion attached to it, how can we grasp the wind yet control it all at the same time. The sooner we recognise what true gift we have been given we can comprehend how t use it. Teaching one another how to use it to the best of our ability and create something more in our lives so we don’t look back on all the times we were ‘too busy.’ It’s time to make the time. You’re tired and sad, take the time to be happy, do something instead of nothing. DO something different instead of the same thing, do something out of your comfort zone that teaches you and broadens your horizon even slightly. You’re growth, your life, your experiences and your contribution to your life all lie in your hands and no one can decide how you use that time. Only you can choose to be wise or foolish.

You are given a gift of time. How will you best use this gift to create something you can leave for others to be inspired by and inspire to? There is no time like the present.

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The Right Time

All We Have Is Time.