There is this terrible habit we have created within our society of dating, love, marriage. It’s the importance of Self and not another. We love our work and self-importance, but will engage the constructs of relationships into our lives, weaving promises and lies into one another. We pretend we care but when things come to the surface we shout and get angry, we say how we are doing the best we can and instead of listening and communicating. We cause more issues and break the foundation that should be strengthened.
We are all our own individual person, we have our own identity, strengths and defining weaknesses too. The insecurities we hold will always manifest themselves unless we work through them by acknowledging them. We have this tendency to bring these needs for recognition and praise forward, it comes in the form of work, bosses, colleagues, friends, family. It affects how we speak and act. The dangerous part of this is that it will always hurt those who can truly love you and care about you. You will break down walls to get where you want to be, including those who you’d pull into your life and the inevitable course of chosen self-destruction.
I guess what I want to say is, why do you want to love another person or want another person to love you when your life is the most important part of your existence is how you present yourself to the world? Love is an action, to give, to sacrifice, to put others needs, wants and desires above your own. You’re not supposed to compromise but promise, and your words hold true. Whatever we hold deep in ourselves, our fears, habitual responses and learned interactions and examples of what a relationship looks like, should be acknowledged and worked through.
Creating change within ourselves creates change in others, and when we lose the fear and need of constant receiving and reassurance, we begin to give actions and words that no longer cost us anything because they hold the value of speaking another person’s love language. You will never need to fear losing love or not being enough when we acknowledge this in ourselves or understand this in our partner, only then can we choose to respond appropriately and accordingly with understanding and kindness.
Esoteric Realms 