Shame

Shame can be many things, it can be on you or me. It can be a shame or it can be shameful but what it can’t be is an expression that once spoken, will ever be taken back. You have now become something so lowly because of careless words and hurtful emotions.

You are more than this even though you feel it. Even if you feel ashamed of yourself or others, even if your behaviour or their behaviour is really shameful, even if they say shame on you, you. You alone decide who and what defines you. Shame has no place in our lives because it will eat away at us, like the erosion of rock from waves crashing up them.

Yet it’s always the people who should be ashamed of their actions who tell us we are in fact the ones who are the shame. Why must we shame each other and pull each other down? Why must we push someone into a place where they get picked apart when they’ve done no wrong? Why must we continue to speak these words out over each other?

I think they enjoy the act of shaming. Telling someone they’re inferior because when it comes down to pin pointing the real issues, they try to deflect from themselves instead of reflecting from their actions.

You are their scapegoat that takes the blame and bears their shame. You say nothing and you continue to hurt from their actions and words. How do we end this cycle of verbal abuse? How do we stop shame?

We are the creators of life and death with our words, especially over those who need us the most. Don’t be the person who takes away from someones greatness and whole self. Lets be the people who build each other up and allow each other to grow. Le us be the ones who support and cherish them in every season in their existence and let us have these people in our own lives.